This month marks the third anniversary of our travels with B. As a nervous first-time parent, our first trip was to my parents’ house in
when B was 3 1/2 months old. Even though I would be staying at a house that was already pretty baby-equipped from my two nephews, I packed way too much stuff. Hot and cranky seated on my lap, B spent a lot of time fussing and crying, making a just-under-3-hour flight seem like forever. At our absolute low point, he spit up all over me when landing. Seated in the bulkhead, I had no access to my wipes and had to wait soaked and humiliated to get to the gate while the male flight attendant looked at me with disdain. I had read about the benefits of nursing while taking off and landing, but I had nursed him way too much. Orlando, Florida
That could have been my last flight with B. At the time, traveling with a small baby seemed like an awful lot of work and an awful lot of trouble. Over the next several months, the opportunity came up for us to take B to
again and to take a couple of cruises and what do you know? Every trip became easier and more enjoyable! Florida
Our travels definitely started out in earnest. But B is now 3, and we have traveled with him to 18 countries, traveling as close as the
U.S. and as far-flung as . This winter, we will be traveling through India Vietnam and . My husband and have spent lots of time traveling through Cambodia Asia, and we can’t wait to do it with B!
20 Things I’ve Learned Traveling with B:
1. Practice makes perfect! The more you travel with a child, the easier it gets! As a first time parent, the thing I found more stressful than sleepless nights and midnight feedings, was trying to figure out all the gear. So, prior to flying with my son for the first time, I practiced going through security in my living room - folding the stroller while holding my son and getting everything (including shoes and a small Ziploc with liquids) onto the x-ray belt with only one available hand. Boy, am I glad I did as it made getting through security a breeze. Each new trip has become easier because we’ve had so much practice with packing, flying and dealing with challenges we encounter along the way.
2. Planning ahead can save a lot of trouble. I’ve always been a planner and to me, planning a trip is half of the fun. I usually ‘rough’ out a day-to-day calendar throughout our trip. We don’t have to stick to it, but it can help to figure out what to do for the day when we are feeling tired or jet-lagged. Speaking of jet-lag…
3. Jet-lag isn’t a big deal. Kids often deal better with jet-lag than their parents. We find traveling from east to west more challenging as it usually results in B waking up a lot earlier than we’d like. But as long as we stick to our normal routine in our destination time zone, it doesn’t take more than a day or two to get into the swing of things.
4. Get your child involved and excited about the destination. Prior to traveling to
Paris, I bought B the book “This is ” by Miraslav Vasek. When we visited the Louvre, B was SO excited to see the Mona Lisa, as he had seen and read about her many times in his book. Before we travel anywhere, B and I read and talk about some of the things we will see, eat and do there. What kid wouldn’t be excited about an upcoming trip knowing they will have a chance to eat waffles in Paris Belgium or ride an elephant in ? Cambodia
5. Slow down. Prior to being parents, Mark and I covered a lot of ground trying to see and do as much as possible during our travels. Traveling with B has made us slow down, spend more time in each place. With a toddler, we often head off first to the local playground. These playgrounds often turn out to be highlights of our trips – not only does B get to blow off steam, but we has the opportunity to meet local kids and we get to chat with fellow parents. And when we can’t find a playground, we find a grassy park for B to run around. Our O-Ball takes up no room in my backpack, and it turns any open place into an impromptu soccer pitch.
6. Keep it simple. Where possible, choose direct flights over connecting - each connection not required is one less connection that can be missed. Do you really need to visit five European countries or would visiting just one or two let you savor the location and relax?
7. Renting a condo can be WAY more fun and convenient than staying in a hotel. When visiting
Maui, most of our time was spent at our condo rental but we splurged for a few nights at a large resort. At the resort, we had to walk a half mile just to get to our car, restaurant charges were extortionate ($8 for a half grapefruit?) and there was a large fee to use a shaded lounger at the kiddy pool. At our condo, we had plenty of space, two bedrooms and a large garden where B could play right outside our lanai. We could prepare our own meals when we wanted to but had a variety of restaurants just a few minutes walk away.
8. Don’t expect traveling with a child to be the same as before you had kids. Traveling with a young child, we do different things than we did before. We spend more time visiting parks than night clubs and see even places we’ve been to before with a new set of eyes. And although Mark and I would never have considered a cruise pre-baby, we’ve discovered that cruises can be a fun, low-hassle way to travel with kids.
9. Make sure you have all the required documentation. In addition to passports and any necessary visas, travel with kids may require additional documentation particularly if they are traveling with only one parent. Read more: Traveling with a child who doesn't share your last name, Traveling as a solo parent
10. Don’t restrict yourself to theme parks and other child-specific attractions. In B’s travels to 18 countries and counting, I am frequently surprised at how much he has enjoyed places which I wouldn’t think of necessarily visiting with a child. In Amsterdam, B wasn’t interested in the paintings at the Van Gogh Museum, but what he did enjoy was our game of ‘I Spy’ where he was called upon to spot the man with the yellow hat, or to count the windmills in a painting. As a toddler at the
Panama Canal, B wasn’t interested in watching ships go through the locks, but the huge viewing area was a great place to play with his ball and to run around. Using a bit of creativity can make almost any destination fun.
11. Don’t mess with nap time. We learned long ago that messing with B’s nap time can lead to disaster, so we plan our days to make sure we always incorporate nap time. Sometimes this means a few hours of down time in our hotel room, giving us time to plan for the next day, or have a nap ourselves. Thankfully B sleeps well in his stroller so when we want to do a bit of uninterrupted shopping or visit an obscure museum, we time our visits for when we know B will be asleep.
12. Trade off with your partner if you are traveling with one. Sure it is nice to do everything together as a family, but when traveling with babies and toddlers, this is not always possible. On our recent bike and barge adventure in
Europe, the weather wasn’t cooperating for the long days with B out in the bike trailer. Mark and I ended up taking turns cycling for the day with the group, while the other enjoyed a day on board the barge with B. And on days when B napped in the hotel room, we took turns exploring our area around our hotel.
13. Busy kids are usually happy kids. Aside from wipes and a change of clothes for B, the most important thing in my backpack is a pencil case full of crayons, small puzzles, stickers, pipe cleaners, small sheets of colored paper and other craft supplies. This helps keep B occupied while we are waiting for our food at restaurants, and for flights and train rides.
14. There is lots of travel gear and handy gadgets out there, but you can do without most of them. Over the years, we’ve used a lot of travel gear but the things I almost always travel with include an inflatable bath tub (to keep up B’s bath routine on cruises and rooms without tubs), our stroller, our CARES harness and our Boba carrier for those times when a stroller just won’t do. We also find a baby monitor handy for times when we plan to enjoy our terrace/balcony/other room after B has gone to bed.
15. There are lots of other intrepid families and plenty of good advice available. From families who have done their first road trip to Disney World to the intrepid family at Going Anyway, who are traveling the world with 5 kids in tow (including one with cerebral palsy), there are plenty of people out there sharing valuable travel advice.
16. Take the ‘haters’ with a grain of salt. For every person who says you shouldn’t travel to this place or that or fly with a child, there are plenty of others who have already done it, and had a great time! Prior to traveling to
Paris with B, I had read a lot of online articles about how unfriendly is for kids but we found it to be the complete opposite! Paris
17. How to pack lean and mean. After many trips and flights, we have learned the difference between what we really need to pack and what we’d like to pack. With all the baggage charges airlines are charging extra for these days, I’ve figured out how to pack all of B’s stuff and all of my stuff together in one small suitcase - and still have some room for souvenirs.
18. Be self-sufficient when flying. Sure, many airlines offer special kids meals but more often than not, your child will get some soggy rendition of chicken nuggets and fries, if they get anything at all. We learned long ago to bring our own food, snacks and drinks on board. Most airlines no longer carry enough milk to refill a sippy cup, so if your child is partial to milk, bring your own on board. Similarly, don’t rely on having a seat back entertainment system. Not all airlines have them and even when they do, sometimes they just don’t work.
19. Just because they won't remember, doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. While B probably won’t remember all the details from his travels as a baby, he is still learning an awful lot along the way. He does remember an awful lot though, but more importantly, he is learning about other countries and experiencing new cultures, foods and experiences.
20. Just do it!
What has travel with your own children taught you?